In my work I frequently, as in almost always, hear client’s frustrations with how things are. They talk about how things should be different. Could be different. Would be different if only…and it is the “if only'“ things that suck up all of their energy, leaving little to none to engage with how things actually are.
It boils down to this, the sooner we stop wishing things were different, the sooner we can get on with actually making a difference.