When we are in relationship with other people, it can be tempting to protect them from the work that is theirs to do. Rather than allow them to come face to face with themselves, we step between them and their "stuff". Doing this can certainly stem from our well intentioned desire to lessen their pain, fear, and discomfort. But it can also come from our desire to protect ourselves from the possibility that they won't choose to show up and do what it takes. Either way, we are getting in their way.
It isn't that we have to go it alone. Part of being in relationship is a willingness to bear witness to, and be present for one another in the midst of the messy business of becoming who we want to be.
Others can't do my work for me, and I can't do theirs. But sometimes our solitary work is best done together.